How to Navigate Mood Swings in Marriage as a Christian Wife

That Time I Laughed Out Loud… Then Got Mad Again

Just yesterday, a friend sent me a link to a blog post on Perfection Pending. I clicked through and ended up laughing out loud at a reposted article by Jesica Ryzynski from Her View From Home. She wrote it to husbands about their angry wives, and I have to say—it hit home.

Because truth be told, I often feel like an angry person, too. Over the years, I’ve learned how to manage those emotions. Some might say I’m bottling things up, but really, I’m buying time to figure out what I’m feeling, why I’m triggered, and how I can process it before others feel the storm.

What It’s Like Living With Mood Swings in Marriage

So today, while that article was still on my mind, I walked into my morning... like an angry wife. And just as Jesica described, my husband asked, “Are you okay? Something seems off with you this morning.”

Well—duh.

He hadn’t read the article yet. And I hadn’t shown it to him (though I probably should). Instead, I leaned on the coping tools I’ve developed over time and tried to pause long enough to understand my mood before unleashing it on anyone.

I Chose Honesty (And It Worked Better Than Nagging)

This time, I chose honesty. I shared what I was feeling once, and then let it go. I didn’t nag, didn’t repeat myself, didn’t harp.

And you know what happened?

My husband unpacked his suitcase from our trip last week without me asking twice. And he even said thank you for the muffins I baked that morning.

Honesty > nagging. Who knew?

Tips for the Moody Wife (Whose Husband Might Read Her as Angry)

If you’re a Christian wife dealing with mood swings in marriage and trying not to lose your ever-loving mind… you’re not alone. These are some of my favorite sanity-savers:

1. Ask for sleep. Don’t wait for him to guess—you’re allowed to demand a nap.

2. Speak up about messes. Pee-splatter and clutter? Address it. Train him kindly and repeatedly.

3. Request food. If he’s grabbing food, ask for yours too. I’m not a grazer—I’m starving by 5.

4. Exit when needed. “Running errands” = a meal in your car with music and no small talk. Bliss.

5. Coffee in peace. Wake up early, drink it hot, and yes—make time to poop.

6. Noise break. When kid TV and voices are too much, revert to tip #4.

7. Control the coffee order. Unless he knows the rules, don’t risk decaf. Period.

What Worked for Me Today

I didn’t yell. I didn’t sigh dramatically. I didn’t list all his flaws.

I just chose honesty. And it paid off.

He unpacked. He thanked me.

And I felt like I won the day without becoming “that angry wife.”

What About You?

What’s the last thing you did that helped balance your emotions, soften your mood, or shift your marriage dynamic—even a little?

Drop your favorite mood-stabilizing trick in the comments or DM me on Instagram @tiffanieteel. I’d love to hear how you’re navigating your version of this story.